Women's Self Defense Training Tips

Women’s Self Defense Training Tips

Self Defense Introduction: The issue of reducing sexual assaults is possible. The mindset needed is to help change women’s attitude about their own vulnerability through empowering principles. Self defense awareness and basic self defense moves will work.

Programs promoting clear and effective communication in dating situations may also help to reduce the risk of sexual assaults. A good self-defense instruction program is a fast start towards learning to presently reduce the numbers of sexual assaults.

Raising the social consciousness about sexual assaults will take time and effort. Therefore, learning a few self defense moves now can “get the point“ across immediately in situations where a sexual assault might occur.

Women’s Self Defense For Life Program will increase your ability to respond to risky situations by providing you with options. When there is a possible danger of an assault, you can react with confidence. One self-defense technique can make the critical difference in avoiding sexual contact.

You can feel empowered. Learning to react to a potential assault using a basic self defense move with confidence can be mastered quickly . Learn to enjoy a sense of self-improvement, and more control over your life with the instructional material and physical skills found on this web site.
The following pages  make up the basic foundation of the “Self Defense for Life Program”. Begin learning the easy-to-follow physical skills with the
First Instructional Move, than learn how to speed up learning vital skills fast with the Importance of a Training Partner, and learn how valuable the one basic position is that we call  “Ready Stance Safety”.

The following suggested material is presented to you by the authors, Bill Valentine and Becky Valentine, Self Defense for Life Coaches and Instructors, and the material on this site is taken from WITS“  (Whatever It Takes), Women’s Self Defense Workbook.”

Always be safe and you won’t be sorry. Good Luck.

First Instructional Move

The First Instructional Move is the “most important first move” in women’s self defense when being attacked…always move in toward your attacker.
Before we begin learning basic self defense skills and techniques that can make that all-important difference in a physical assault, it is necessary to understand the “first instructional move” is the most important first move to make if assaulted in womens self defense.

If you are being grabbed, do not pull back but move into the attacker.



Moving into close range with the attacker can maximize your strengths and power with the techniques you are about to learn from womens self defense.

The First Instructional Move can be a difficult concept to understand initially in women’s self defense; however, it will become clearer as we move through these lessons why this “first move” is so vitally important!

This type of self defense program is not training you to be a karate expert/fighter, and self-defense is not a sport. We are preparing a person to survive an attack in an unregulated setting. Creating enough pain to your attacker can provide the space for you to leave a high-risk situation. Learning the techniques and skills with a training partner will provide you with a greater skill level faster, and will help you gain the confidence needed to use your new found self defense moves should a need arise.

When you move into the attacker your body becomes a more effective weapon in terms of both power and speed. We maximize our natural power, force and abilities with CENTER STRENGTH as we move into the attacker.

Here is about 8 minutes of our Instructional Self Defense for Life DVD , that covers the material on this page.

Self Defense For Life Center Strength Theory

Center Strength Theory essentially states that the closer our limbs are to the center of our body, the more strength we possess. Try holding a thick telephone book extended straight out from your body at chest level. In a matter of a few seconds the weight of the heavy telephone book will be too much to hold out in the extended position.

Now, try holding the same telephone book in close with your arms and elbows up against your chest and notice the difference. You can manage the weight of the telephone book for a longer period of time with much less effort. Moving into an attacker capitalizes on this theory of
Center Strength, as well as doing the unexpected.

The advantage of moving in strengthens you both physically and psychologically. Everyone’s natural tendency is to pull away from an attacker, especially if grabbed by the arm. Moving away from the attack gives the attacker an advantage. If the intent of the attacker is to punch you, then moving away puts you at a distance that gives the punch more impact. However, by doing the unexpected (The First Instructional Move) and moving in, you cut off the power of the strike by cutting the distance the arm travels to the target.

When you are in close quarters to the attacker you can use your body as a more effective weapon. The attacker’s size, strength, speed or condition will be minimized with the physical skills and techniques of basic self defense you are about to learn. The best part of all these women’s self defense lessons is that you don’t have to be in good physical condition to be effective!

Surprise and Ability

The two elements that can change an assault/attack situation in your favor fast are surprise and ability. These elements will prevail over size, strength, and conditioning to make the critical difference in removing yourself from a dangerous situation.

Prevention is where a good self-defense program concentrates most of the effort. Learning to avoid any physical action is the best defense.

When physical contact is unavoidable the mental mindset is now offense. The old saying, “the best defense is an offense” holds true when your health or life is in the balance.

For example, in a “defense” situation, the attacker is controlling the action while the person being attacked is in the position of trying to defend themselves. Turning the situation around from being attacked to being the attacker is the goal of women’s self defense.

Escaping the assault means controlling the moment or action. The means to power this strategy of surprise and ability is within all of us, and the way to begin is to study and practice the offensive techniques and drills found throughout this program.

The First Instructional Move will capitalize on this strategy.

Self Defense is not magical, it’s bio-mechanical.

To learn the physical skills needed, in a safe learning format, continue down this page to begin the exercise type drills with a Training Partner.


Find a willing partner to practice the basic self-defense techniques and moves in a cooperative atmosphere of mutual fun and support.

Partner drills are noncompetitive. The safety protocol for all of the safety training drills is to only move cautiously at a slow (1/2) speed for control. Learning the motor movements is the goal. In a real situation of an attack your body will respond quickly with the motor movement in your memory.

A good training drill that will help you grasp the concept of moving into the attacker and begin working with a training partner is the Grab Drill.

The below picture demonstrates the Grab Drill being practiced at one the Women’s Self Defense Safety Workshops, with over 200 women participating with the self defense moves.

Designate one partner as the attacker, and have them grab the other partner by the arm or wrist as they move around the other partner in a circle.

At this point, it is important that the partner being grabbed only makes a small move in the direction of the attacker, and not run into the attacker.

You just want to feel the grab and learn to make the “first move” in the direction of the attacker as illustrated in the below workshop picture.


Speed is not necessary to lock in this motor movement into your memory. There is no element of surprise in Partner Drills, and that is why the reaction of the partner being grabbed should only be at half speed.

The physical skills and self defense moves you will be shown will work better in a real life situation where surprise and ability can help level the playing field in women’s self defense.

Practice this drill a few times and switch roles with your training partner.

A Slice of Reality…in Women’s Self Defense


Expect to take a hit. This is an important point about self-protection that everyone needs to realize.

Real life is not a motion picture fantasy where only the bad guy gets hurt. I want your mental mindset to be prepared for some form of contact in women’s self defense.

If you have ever played soccer or basketball then you know what it is like to be accidentally kicked or hit with an elbow. It is just part of the game. You accept the possibilities of physical contact as part of the sport.

Self-defense is not a sport and there are no medals for second place. According to the Pasadena Rape Hotline, most rapists are not murderers.

Of the women who chose to resist an attacker, fewer than 9% sustain injuries more than a cut or a bruise.training partner,womens self defense partners,basic self defense moves,easy ultimate training basics

Ready Stance: Hands are up in a “Soft Guard” Position

Begin by taking a Ready Stance as pictured. This is the only stance you will need to know for the Women’s Self Defense for Life Program.

Your feet should be shoulder width apart. The leg you favor to kick with will be placed approximately the length of your foot behind the other, as demonstrated in the side view. This type of self defense move will be the launching pad for any needed techniques of basic self defense.

Arms should be bent up with your hands facing out. This Soft Guard Position is a protective stance that is non-threatening. If your fists were clenched than you would be telegraphing your intentions, and any verbal communication between you and a possible threat would be less effective.

The non-kicking leg is called the support leg, and it should be slightly bent at the knee with the foot firmly flat on the ground. You should feel relaxed and well balanced moving your body slightly forward, back and to the sides. Practice this stance before moving on the Partner Drill.

Women’s Self Defense Partner Drill

This fun type of drill is popular in our Women’s Self Defense Workshops.

To see if you are really relaxed and balanced in this “soft guard” stance, your training partner will walk around you a few times gently pushing and pulling to see if you can remain in your protective stance position. If your leg muscles are too stiff you will easily find yourself off balance, moving your feet around to compensate.

When you can demonstrate your flexibility by maintaining your balance through the gentle pushes and pulls, and think you have mastered this game, than take this Training Drill and important basic self defense move to the next level.

The partner in the Ready Stance will now close their eyes. Again, the other training partner will walk a few times around their partner in this ready position and gently push and pull from different angles. To maintain your balance you will have to learn to bend and flex with your legs and body to remain in the Ready Stance.

This fun type of women’s self defense drill will teach you a sense of balance with your body. Finding a good Partner is a great way to learn the basic self defense moves and physical skills in a fast, fun , and safe atmosphere of mutual respect and cooperation.

One self defense technique can make the critical difference in avoiding sexual contact in most cases of sexual assault!

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* A special type of Knee Kick, page 12
* Easy to learn Front Snap Kick, page 16
* Elbow Strikes are Painful!, page 20
* Security with a Keychain Weapon, page 34
* What to do if you find yourself on the ground, page 41
* Arming your purse with Household Items, page 45
* How to swing your purse as a weapon, page 44
* Grab from behind techniques, pages 23, 28, 29, 30, 37, 38, 39
* Bear Hug from the front.. or more pain for the offender! Pages 10, 22, 26, 27, 28, 37, 39
* How to use this book, or a magazine as a Weapon, pages 32, 33

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